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Julia Burkin
Multi Award-Winning Life & Relationship Coach Based in Barkston near Grantham, Lincolnshire Coaching individuals and couples online and in person since 2006
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How Does Illness Change A Relationship?
Most people expect illness to affect health.Fewer expect it to affect a relationship.Yet whether the illness belongs to a partner,
Why Am I Waiting For Someone Else ToTell Me I’m Enough?
One of the saddest things I see in coaching is how many people are waiting. Waiting for somebody else to
Can A Relationship Survive Retirement?
Most people prepare financially for retirement, but very few prepare emotionally for the identity shift it brings. When work stops
Why Do I Doubt Myself So Much?
Self-doubt is often less about decision-making ability and more about a lack of trust in one’s own judgement. Many capable
What Is Self-Value And Why Does ItMatter?
Self-value is different from confidence—it’s about whether you believe you matter, not just what you can do. Many people struggle
What Does A Relationship Coach ActuallyDo?
Coaching is often misunderstood as advice-giving, but in reality it provides space, clarity, and self-understanding rather than instructions. People usually
Articles & resources
Am I In A Controlling Relationship?
Controlling relationships often develop gradually and can be difficult to recognise because they may initially appear as care, concern, or
Why Do I Feel Lonely In My Relationship?
Feeling lonely in a relationship isn’t always about being alone—it often comes from a lack of emotional connection despite spending
Why Do I Never Feel Heard In My Relationship?
“We’ve had this conversation a hundred times.” A couple said that to me recently. So I asked a simple question.
Why Has Intimacy Disappeared From Our Relationship?
Intimacy in long-term relationships often doesn’t disappear suddenly—it fades gradually under the weight of stress, routine, and life demands. This
Why Do Good People End Up In UnhealthyRelationships?
Most relationship problems are not caused by bad people, but by protective patterns that developed over time. This article explores
Can We Recover After An Affair?
One of the biggest misconceptions about unhealthy relationships is that somebody must be the villain. After nearly twenty years working
Case Studies
Anna’s Story
How one woman moved beyond willpower and found a sustainable path through self-understanding.
Finding Belonging After Retirement
After a successful corporate career, a retired man discovered that true fulfillment came not from achievement or status, but from
Breaking the Cycle of Putting Everyone Else First
After years of putting everyone else first, a client discovered the importance of recognising her own needs, building self-worth, and
What clients say
Julia is AMAZING at what she does. I would highly recommend her. She supported me through anxiety during my second pregnancy and during the ‘fourth trimester’. She was kind, empathetic and supportive. I listened to a recording she made me during my birth! A wonderful coach and woman 🤍
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